I’ve been in a super sexy relationship for almost three years now with my wife.  We waited to do it until we were married and it was mega uneasy.  That was something we decided to do early in the relationship.  Why?  I’ll be honest with you: one, because it was hammered into us at youth camp that if you have sex before marriage, your genitals fall off.  But, I’m not into doing much because I was told to do so.  So two, we wanted to put a value on sex and say that it’s something that was designed to work well in a committed union.  That’s one thing that separates me from my husky.  

Using sex in that committed union (some call it a marriage) places a value on the act. When you are willing to wait to use it in its best scenario and habitat, you are far less likely to take it out of that scenario and habitat after you’ve committed yourself to one person.  Again, waiting for it gives it its true fermentation and you are far less prone to make sex with another that’s not your wife or nor husband once your heart, soul, and body, feel and believe in its design and functionality.  It’s not a “do this and this will never happen” promise, but it does build a mighty discipline that can save you from causing harm to those closest to you.

If you’ve done the sexy or are doing sex right now while you’re reading this with someone you’re not in a marriage with, no worries right now, man.  I’m not going to be an ass and say go wash your hands and stop by confession on your way to get condoms next time.  Plus, we’re not the things we do.  We’re all created to be an optimal person, and that’s where our identity is found.  I just wanted to add a new voice to sex that doesn’t get much volume, mostly due to its unpopularity and difficulty.  It’s a fight against your impulses, but impulses aren’t designed to be obeyed, they’re your body thinking-not your brain thinking.  It’s worth it to walk that new road with someone else walking it for the first time with you also.  That’s not the situation all of us are in, but it’s never to late to try new things.

Be excellent to each other, and party on dudes

Colt 

Three things on the Rob Bell fiasco:

1) Most people have made up their mind already; no book or blog will change it.  We grow older and more firm in our interpretation of Truth, so ideas that pick at what we think is true make us heat up.  Why?  Life is a classroom, not a stage.

2) Do we need to choose sides when the sides are within the Church?  Is that a rule?  I’m not spiritually obligated to know answers and neither are you.  If we think the Trinity’s character can be understood within what we can understand, then we are severely mistaken.

3) We must remember that we didn’t learn everything we needed to know about the Trinity when we were in our teens.  When we hear something that rubs against that education, we get defensive.  If I still lived like that, I’d be telling people to quit watching Austin Powers, listening to NIN, and wearing those Mossimo tequila shirts (you know, those ones where the text gets blurry).

Either way, it should not change the way you live or change the way you follow.  Chill, yo.